“We  live in a fallen world.  We just need to be the best we can be and let the rest fall where it may”

[A] good buddy of mine wrote that to me today.  He was speaking to me in response to my countenance.  A countenance that was less than stellar.  I have been suffering lately with a case of expectations.  It has been a reoccurring affliction I have endured off and on for years.  Sometimes my expectations of others are an assumed mask used to hide from my own shortcomings.  Sometimes  I want good things for folks so bad that I allow my wants to somehow be transformed into a mental and emotional picture of how things should be developing and happening, how people should be behaving, you know, expectations.

One of the wisest things I have ever heard was while sitting years ago in a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous.  A gentleman spoke, saying, that “His level of serenity was inversely proportional to his level of expectations”.  I sat and thought, “What sort of sage is this I have happened upon in a basement conference room of Kaiser Hospital”.  I later learned that this “sage” was quoting directly from “Acceptance Was the Answer” a story taken from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.  This thought has served me well through the years but on this particular day it was a good friend who blew through my sideways thinking and took my thoughts and heart off of my expectations of people, places and things, allowing some peace of mind and soul.

Sometimes what we do as a part of Joy Squared works out just the way we envision.  Sometimes our wonderful plans and ideas grow, bloom and are so beautiful.  Sometimes though, we either planted the wrong thing or the soil was incorrect, we over watered, we under watered, we forgot to fertilize. Sometimes we over think our little garden of thoughts and deeds and just plain wear the poor thing out.   I am encouraged today as I sit now and think that what we are doing is a beautiful thing.  For me though, I need to be reminded from time to time that we are just caretakers of the time, talents and treasures that have been so graciously given to us.  We are caretakers and not owners of these things. They are to be considered precious, handled with care and then passed on to others in our attempt to make someone else’s life just a bit better, joyful if you will.  My hope is to allow joy to be a factor on both sides of the equation and to remove expectations from the formula all together.  More to the point, “We just need to be the best we can be and let the rest fall where it may”.  God is good!

I thank each and every one of you who supports and participates in our collective acts of kindness.  As Martha would say, “it is a good thing”.

“I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the increase.  So then neither he who plants is anything, nor he who waters, but God who gives the increase.  Now he who plants and he who waters are one, and each one will receive his own reward according to his labor”

~ 1 Corinthians 3:6-8